Men Fail To Satisfy Women In Bed...
And How You Can Avoid Every One Of Them
-By Alex Allman, Author of "Revolutionary Sex"
1. ASKING HER WHAT TURNS HER ON
Women are always saying that they want a man
who knows how to communicate, so a lot of guys
think that if they just ASK a woman how to
satisfy her, that she'll appreciate it.
This could not be more wrong.
Even more than leading in dancing, women
expect, appreciate, and are turned-on by men
who LEAD in bed.
You are probably very interested in what turns
her on and what she really wants beyond just
changing positions every now and then...
But for most women, it will be hard for her to
tell you these things unless you develop the
skill of getting her to open up to you.
If you just ask her "What turns you on?"
you might get a good answer. She might even like
it when you ask her. But there is a strong chance
that, on some unconscious level, she will feel
a WEAKNESS in you and be disappointed.
And she will be less turned on by the entire
sexual experience with you.
A woman wants a man who KNOWS WHAT SHE WANTS.
But, to be fair, we can't read minds and
different women can like very, very different
things.
The key is learning how to get her to TELL
YOU, without asking....and doing it in a way
that TURNS HER ON.
2. BELIEVING THAT YOU CAN'T CHANGE HOW SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE YOU ARE
We like sex better when we are more attracted
to our partner.
Sexual arousal comes from attraction, so
obviously one factor in being better in bed
is being more sexually attractive to the woman
that you are with.
For us men, our level of sexual attraction is
mostly about what a woman looks like... like
how big her breasts are or how pretty her face
is.
But when a woman says that a man is SEXY, what
does she mean?
Well, she is usually NOT talking about what he
looks like.
Many women say that actors like Vin Deisel or
James Gandolfini are sexy. But neither if them
are obviously good looking in the way that a
Tom Cruise or a Brad Pitt are. So obviously,
sexy for a woman is far more than a pretty face.
Think about it... haven't you sees lots of
really beautiful women with average looking or
even below average looking guys?
Of course you have.
And if you were thinking that it was because
he had lots of money and drove a nice car,
think again.
That's a big myth made up by insecure guys.
After all, you also probably know at least
one really rich guy who can't get a date with
an attractive woman to save his own life.
Now it all it takes is money to be sexy, why
doesn't that guy have a hot girlfriend?
So if it's not looks and it's not money...
what is it?
Sexy to a woman is usually about CONFIDENCE
and PASSION.
A lot of people talk about confidence, but
few mention SEXUAL CONFIDENCE, and even
fewer ever talk about passion.
Unfortunately, most men are embarrassed by
their own passion...
That's a shame, because women respond to men
that are moved deeply, not moderately.
The funny thing is, most men DO feel strongly
about things. They are just too timid and fearful
of humiliation to release their passions.
It take massive confidence to display passion.
So in a way passion is really just another form
of displaying confidence.
For women, guys who can display these qualities
are a huge turn-on in bed, so learning how to
display them and "send the right signals" is
essential.
3. NOT KNOWING WHEN SHE'S FAKING IT
70% of all women in America report that they
have never had an orgasm from vaginal sex, yet
ask ANY guy if his girlfriend is sexually
satisfied and he'll say,"Hell yeah!"
What's going on here?
What you may not have considered is how
embarrassing this little fact can be for WOMEN.
Since most guys are pretty insecure about
their sexual ability, they can put a lot of
pressure on the girl that they are with,
desperately trying to figure out if she's
satisfied or not.
And worse, if the guy that she is with is
like MOST guys, she knows within a few seconds
that no matter how long he keeps at it... that
"it's just not going to happen."
He just doesn't know how to make the right
connections for her.
And so, for most women, the desire to avoid
embarrassment has led them to become extremely
good at "faking it."
That's why most guys out there have no idea how
really clueless they are at satisfying women in
bed. Even guys that are actually way BELOW AVERAGE
compared to the other men that she's been with
sometimes believe they are great because they can't
tell the difference and she never says anything
about it.
4. WORRYING THAT SHE'LL COMPARE YOU WITH OTHER MEN THAT SHE'S BEEN WITH
Here's the cold hard truth:
She will.
Not only do women compare you to other guys
that they have been intimate with, but she'll
compare you to the BEST sexual experience that
she's ever had... because that's the one that
she's hoping to relive.
And let's face it, with competition like that,
there's a good chance she'll be disappointed
with your performance.
The mistake is... WORRYING ABOUT IT.
Worried is the opposite of cool, confident
and passionate. No woman is turned on by worry.
It is the surest way to ENSURE that you don't
compare well with her fantasy guy.
The good news is, the bar is set very, very
low. Most guys have no real idea about what turns
women on. And chances are, the best she's ever
been with was not all that good.
With only a few little pieces of information
about women and their sexuality, you can easily
explode her expectations of what kind of sexual
pleasure is possible for her.
5. BELIEVING THAT YOUR WIFE OR GIRLFRIEND JUST ISN'T THAT INTERESTED IN SEX OR HAS A LOW SEX-DRIVE
Do women ever cheat on their boyfriends because
they are not sexually satisfied?
Well, the short answer is "yes", but, of course,
it's more complicated than that.
Have you ever worried that maybe your girlfriend
is secretly fantasizing about what it might be
like to have sex with some sexy guy that she met
while she was out with her friends? Or some guy
she admires at work?
Unfortunately, for most guys, having a wife or
girlfriend cheat on them is a cold and harsh
reality. It's one of the most painful things any
guy can ever face.
It can shatter your ego and seriously mess up
your future sexual relationships for years to
come.
But most guys never take the time to get into
a woman's head to think about WHY she is cheating.
Here's a hint though: From her point of view, it
probably wasn't her lack of integrity or loyalty.
Most women that cheat feel that they are missing
out on something important that life has to
offer... something that they feel they are
entitled to.
FACT: Women who are fully sexually satisfied
don't cheat.
I'm not saying she won't break up with you...
Obviously relationships and relationship
health are far more complex issues than just
good sex... though generally speaking, if you
know an attractive woman who stays with some
guy even though he is a total jerk, I can
promise that the reason is because the sex is
great.
But as far as cheating goes, women don't cheat
because their boyfriend doesn't help with the
housework. They cheat because they feel that their
life lacks intimacy or excitement... in other
words:
SEXUAL intimacy and excitement.
The reasons for this may or may not have to
do with the guy's ability in bed. Intimacy breaks
down for a lot of reasons. But when it does,
usually one of the first places that it shows up
is in bed, and that's when a woman is most likely
to be tempted by "other possibilities."
That's why if your girlfriend or wife is "not
in the mood" more and more often, you
should not ignore it or think that she just
doesn't have a high sex drive.
Women have options.
If you are not satisfying her, I'm not saying
that she will cheat on you... but it is certainly
not good for the health of your relationship.
6. USING SOME CANNED TECHNIQUE FROM AN ARTICLE
There are endless books and articles on
"secret techniques" to drive women wild or
to find her g-spot...
Whatever.
Of course, it is very important to know
your woman's basic anatomy, and you should
certainly know how to find her clitoris, her g-spot,
her c-spot (above the cervix), and all of her favorite
personal spots that make her come...
But when you use some technique that worked
on some other woman (the writer of the article
most of the time), odds are, it is not going to be
completely congruent with what YOUR woman
likes.
Every woman is different.
What works for one, often doesn't work for
another.
But more importantly, when you are using some
technique on her, she KNOWS it.
When you finally hit the path of true Sexual
Mastery, you'll be less concerned about
"techniques" and more concerned about connections...
Because orgasms don't come from the vagina... they
come from the brain...
And unlike men, women usually can't have an orgasm
from genital stimulation alone... you've got to know
how to make them feel sexual, connected, and that
magical thing called "sexual trust".
When you learn the techniques that earn her
sexual trust instead of the techniques for touching
her body, you will give her the most powerful
orgasms of her life and unlock her FULL
SEXUAL POTENTIAL...
-Multiple Orgasms
-Extended Orgasms
-Female Ejaculation
-Heightened Orgasmic States
-And much more...
7. NOT DEALING WITH SEXUAL INSECURITIES AND ANXIETY
One of the most humiliating things that men
deal with is "performance anxiety."
Not being able to "get it up" when you are in
bed with a beautiful woman.
At one time or another it happens to everyone.
The first time it happened to me I was in
college and I was out with a gorgeous girl
who was a few years older than me, and she was
very sexually forward.
Because I didn't want her to know that I wasn't
as experiences as she was, I was trying to pretend
that I was cool and make her think that I knew
EXACTLY how to please a woman.
But then when we got to the bedroom, I suddenly
realized that I was about to be exposed as the
fraud that I was. I wasn't as cool or as
knowledgeable as I was pretending to be.
I really felt the PRESSURE TO PERFORM.
And as every guy knows, that is the surest way
to make it, well, impossible to perform.
Anyway... It was a pretty humiliating experience.
Worse, she was good friends with my roommate, and
I always wondered if she ever told him what
happened. After that, whenever me and the roommate
were talking about chicks, I always felt like a
fraud. Like he was nodding on the outside, but
on the inside he knew I was a loser who couldn't
get it up.
The truth is, most guys when they are out on a
date with a girl try to play Mr. Cool. We all want
women to think that we "get it" and that we're
sexually savvy. Every guy wants a woman to believe
that if she goes to bed with ME, she's going to
have the ride of her life!
But the bottom line is, once you actually
succeed in convincing her, once she actually
likes you enough or trusts you enough and agrees
to have sex with you, there is no way to hide the
truth.
And no guy wants to be exposed as a fake.
8. NOT UNDERSTANDING THAT WOMEN WANT GREAT SEX AS MUCH AS YOU DO...MAYBE MORE
Can you remember when you first realized that the
girls in your school had something secret about
their bodies that you wanted?
For most guys, there comes a time in childhood when
they realize that the girls (the kids in their class
that have long hair and are no fun to hang out with,
the ones that don't collect baseball cards and
don't play sports), these girls are the gatekeepers
of the thing that is suddenly, weirdly, more important
than anything else in the world.
And worse still, most girls grew up with the idea
that their sexuality was something that they had
to guard and protect from the boys.
The result is that if you're like most of us
guys, you grew up feeling like the girl was the
"enemy guard" that stood between you and the prize
between her legs.
But nothing could be farther from the truth.
Women are not the enemy when it comes to sex.
In fact, women want sex, GOOD sex, as much or
more than you do.
For a lot of guys, this wrong-headed idea that
we want sex and it's their job to prevent us from
getting it, is one of the most difficult things to
re-program out of their brains.
Learning that you don't have to trick a woman
into sex, and really believing that it's not
something that you talked her into, or that she's
just doing it for your sake, is one of the keys to
connecting to her on the kind of level that will
allow her to experience her most powerful orgasms
with you.
9. NOT UNDERSTANDING THE SEXUAL LANGUAGE OF WOMEN
The single biggest mistake that most guys make
during sex is doing what they THINK works, or what
somebody TOLD them works, or what they READ
somewhere works, or even what worked on some OTHER
girl... rather than understanding how to read the
signals that she is sending about what REALLY WORKS
on her.
Have you ever "gone down" on a girl, and thought
you knew what you were doing, but couldn't make
her come? Or maybe it just started to feel like
she was bored or that she was hoping you'd finish
already?
Or have you ever been making love to a woman and
she seems to be getting more and more excited and
then just as you thought she was about to come,
she pushed you away or stopped you... and you
didn't know why?
Do you ever feel like you want sex more than your
girlfriend does, or that she's just not that into
it anymore?
These girls are sending you all sorts of subtle
signals and you are NOT LISTENING to them because
they are not in a language that you understand.
All girls are different.
Ultimately, the more you think that you understand
women, the more you will fail to understand a
particular woman.
Learning how to listen to a woman's body and
paying attention to what it is telling you, is
the single most indispensable skill to giving her
the most incredible sexual experience she has ever
had.
It's essential that you learn this skill.
10. NOT GETTING HELP
This is the biggest mistake of all.
This is the mistake that prevents most men
from ever having the kind of amazing sex with
a woman that will blow her mind and she will brag
to her friends about.
I know how it is.... most guys don't ever want
to ask for any kind of help about anything. We
always want to think we can go it alone.
That's true of even just asking for something
like driving directions.
Imagine how much more difficult it is to ask
for help with your sex life...
Most men simply don't have the guts to admit that
they could benefit from the help.
Trust me, I've been there myself and I know
how hard it can be.
But I spent the last 15 years studying sexual secrets,
practices from around the world, and I've logged
hundreds of hours talking to women...
One thing I kept hearing over and over from
women was how truly pathetic most men are at
satisfying them sexually.
Don't believe me? Ask any woman at all and
she'll tell you that most men are clueless in bed.
Or better yet, ask a bi-sexual woman how her
male lovers have stacked up against their female
lovers... she'll have a good laugh at the expense
of our gender.
My 15 years of obsession have given me some
amazing knowledge, some amazing distinctions, and
I have had the pleasure of giving many women their
first orgasm.
I'm a student. I love making love to a beautiful
woman that I have an initmate, emotional
connection with, and giving her more pleasure
than she even knows she can take. I love blowing
her mind. And I am always listening and learning
and enjoying becoming better.
And now that I am in committed, loving relationship
for years now, I love that I have the knowledge to
keep it fresh, exciting, and hot forever.
And if you're still reading this, then I know
that you are a student too. That you are open
to learning more about how to be great in bed
and how to really blow a woman's mind the very
first time you sleep with her... or after years
of love and happiness and commitment.
More than one woman that I have talked to has
asked me to write a book on the subject so
that they don't have to keep being disappointed
by the men in their lives.
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